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Regrets of Opportunities Taken

9/20/2017

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“Flee for your lives! Don’t look back, and don’t stop anywhere in the plain! Flee to the mountains or you will be swept away!”…But Lot’s wife looked back, and she became a pillar of salt.  Genesis 19: 17, 26
 
 
While our key verses for today teach on obedience and Lot’s wife’s clear disobedience to God’s instructions, verse 26 also speaks to me of regret. In Genesis 19, Abraham’s nephew Lot lived in the city of Sodom. As God was preparing to destroy the city, Abraham’s prayer sought to save Lot. As the story unfolds, Lot shows the customary hospitality to two strangers who are seemingly passing through Sodom. Lot is unaware these men are actually angels. When all of the town’s men show up at Lot’s doorstep to harm the strangers under Lot’s protection, the angels grab the hands of Lot, his wife, and two daughters and pull them to safety outside the city, telling them to run to the mountains and don’t look back at the destruction of Sodom. But Lot’s wife couldn’t help herself. She turned to give the town one last glance, a look that would cost her her life.
 
At the risk of turning into a pillar of salt (or stone as ancient historians have recorded), what made Lot’s wife turn back for one last look? Was it just sheer disobedience? Curiosity? Or could it be she was experiencing regret? Digging deeper into the Genesis text, I realized that Lot had other daughters in addition to the two that escaped with him. In Genesis 19:14, Lot urged his sons-in-law to leave the city with him but they laughed at him instead. Their wives were the sisters of the two daughters living at home. Perhaps Lot’s wife looked back to see if her other daughters were escaping the city, too. Or perhaps she knew they were not, and her mother-heart was filled with sadness, grief, and regret. Scholars believe that unlike her husband, Lot’s wife was from Sodom. Perhaps the look back was one of sadness to know that the rest of her extended family would soon perish. Or maybe she was filled with regret at not being able to bring her belongings with her. Whatever caused Lot’s wife to look back, her action was deadly.
 
Our own regrets can be emotionally deadly. I met someone recently who shared with me regrets he had involving a childhood friend. The guilt and blame he inflicted on himself over the years played havoc with his relationships until he came to terms with it through counseling. I could relate to his words as I have my own list of regrets. At the top of that list is not spending more time with my brother before he passed away. But other regrets surface, too, of bad choices in relationships, words said in haste and anger, opportunities missed, wrong opportunities taken.
 
Dictionary.com defines regret as “a feeling of sorrow or remorse” and “a sense of loss, disappointment, dissatisfaction”. Regret also involves a sense of guilt.  
 
King David of Israel knew regret. His story of committing adultery and orchestrating the cover-up involving the murder of the husband wronged is recorded in the Bible in 2 Samuel 11-12. In this account, the prophet Nathan confronts David with his sin. David is struck with remorse, guilt, and sorrow over his actions. He pours out his heart to God in Psalm 51. Verses 10-12 say “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me from your presence or take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.”
 
God can take whatever we’ve done, whatever regrets we have, and give us a fresh start. He can wash us clean from our sins and guilt and restore joy in our hearts. But to experience this renewal, we have to confess our wrong actions and acknowledge our regretful thoughts and feelings to Him. When we do, God meets us where we are, washes us clean, and sets our feet on a new path. We don’t have to look back to a place of guilt and regret. Our past does not define us. Instead of having hearts of stone, we’ll have pure, grateful hearts. Thanks be to God!
 
 
Heavenly Father, thank You for sending Your Son, Jesus Christ, to die for my sins. Belief in His sacrifice for my sake removes the stain of sin and regret. Wash me clean, O Lord, and create in me a pure heart. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
 
 
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Text and photograph copyright © 2017 by Dawn Dailey. All rights reserved. Photo of the Côte d’Azur from the hilltop Jardin Exotique in Eze, France.
 
 
All scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV®. Copyright ©1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.™ Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. www.zondervan.com The “NIV” and “New International Version” are trademarks registered in the United States Patent and Trademark Office by Biblica, Inc.™
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Regrets of Opportunities Missed

9/6/2017

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​“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.”  Isaiah 43:18-19
 
 
Stepping out of my comfort zone, I said yes. But not before I had weighed the opportunity over in my mind for a while. Would this be the only time I’d be able to do this? Would I regret this if I said no? I could hear my mother’s voice in my head saying “He [or in this case, she] who hesitates is lost.” Walking over to a spry, fun-loving new friend, I asked if there was still a seat left. She said there was. I went for it.
 
While I had flown in airplanes of all sizes over the years, from two-seater, single props to jumbo double-decker jets, I had never ridden in a helicopter before. My perception that helicopters seem to crash more often than airplanes had kept my feet firmly on the ground, until the chance arose that day to travel along the Côte d’Azur from Monaco to Nice. I convinced my fearful self that it would be OK, even fun, and the risk of crashing was low. As I imagined the magnificent views of the Mediterranean Sea and its coastline, I decided this was not a venture I wanted to pass up. A little while later, we were skimming along the surface of the glistening turquoise water. Sitting in the front seat, the floor-to-ceiling windows gave the unnerving illusion of flying without the aid of the helicopter. The sea felt so close I could almost touch it. The views were spectacular as we passed Monaco, Villefranche-sur-Mer, and Nice before landing at the airstrip just south of the city. This exhilarating ride ended all too soon!
 
How many times do we pass up opportunities because of fear? Does leaving our comfort zone seem too daunting or at the very least, too inconvenient? Do we ever regret not saying yes when a situation presents itself that would be in our best interests to take? How many times do we hesitate and then lose the chance presented?
 
In Isaiah 43, our key verses 18-19 tell us not to dwell on the past where regrets of missed opportunities and wrong choices live. God does work on our behalf, creating new things out of the old, making ways for us even when the path has detoured or dead-ended. These verses are the prophet Isaiah’s words from God to the Israelites who, under Babylonian captivity, needed hope. God promised renewal and a new order of life in the form of His Son, Jesus, the long-awaited Messiah of the Jews.
 
Jesus is our hope, too. In the journey of life, where there are opportunities both taken and missed, we can rest in the fact that God has our best in mind, that He goes with us, and He is sovereign. Stepping into a God-given moment gives us peace and joy as we follow Him. While we might miss out if we hesitate, all is not lost with Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith, who uses opportunities and regrets to build our character and to give us hope. He can take the regrets of lost chances and use them to teach us how to step through doors He opens next time. If there are regrets due to unwise choices of stepping through the wrong door, God can take those, too, and redeem them, weaving them into the fabric of our lives to teach us who He wants us to be. With God, all opportunities are full of grace.
 
 
Dear God, help me step out of my comfort zone and into the opportunities You provide. I’m so grateful that even if I hesitate too long out of fear, You still lead and guide me, opening other doors along the way. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
 
 
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Text and photograph copyright © 2017 by Dawn Dailey. All rights reserved. Photo of Nice, France, from the top of the Bellanda Tower.
 
 
All scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV®. Copyright ©1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.™ Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. www.zondervan.com The “NIV” and “New International Version” are trademarks registered in the United States Patent and Trademark Office by Biblica, Inc.™
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